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Marriage is one of life’s biggest commitments.
Whether you’re engaged, newly committed, or considering marriage, online premarital counseling gives you the tools to navigate challenges, strengthen communication, and build a secure, lasting partnership from the start.
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Set your marriage up for success with premarital counsel based on insights from over 30,000 counseling sessions.
After 15 years of marriage myself & two decades of counseling couples, I’ve seen what works. Creating a relationship you love requires being a team, even when you’re upset.
Premarital counseling online can help you bring out the best in each other — with flexible scheduling and weekend appointments to fit your lifestyle.
If you’re ready to strengthen your marriage before it begins… then book your free 15-minute introductory call to set yourselves up for a successful partnership.
We started off with her uncertain if we, boyfriend and girlfriend, could make it to the next day and now we KNOW we are life partners who will one day have a beautiful family.
Gain the skills to handle any relationship challenge before they come.
Address potential conflict areas before they turn into bigger challenges. Learn how to communicate effectively, express your needs with confidence, and truly listen with empathy.
Avoid common marriage pitfalls with expert guidance and research-backed tools. Premarital counseling significantly lowers the risk of divorce. Through premarital counseling, personalized coaching, practical exercises, and a structured framework, you’ll create a secure partnership where love and connection continue to grow.
Learn proven strategies to build a resilient, loving marriage. Get a fresh perspective, proven tools, and strategies for a lasting partnership with a relationship expert who has helps 1,000s of couples.
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“WE NOW FEEL SAFE TO SHARE ANYTHING WITH EACH OTHER.”
– YOUNG COHABITATING COUPLE IN CALIFORNIA
DEBBIE CHERRY, LMFT
Premarital counseling typically involves a series of structured sessions where a trained counselor guides the couple through discussions on communication, conflict resolution, and expectations for married life. Sessions may include activities such as practicing communication skills, guided discussions, and self-assessment exercises. The counselor will help you identify strengths and potential challenges in your relationship, offering strategies to build a strong foundation for your future together.
You’ll each have space to share your perspective while learning how to listen without defensiveness. We’ll use practical tools and empathy-based exercises to help you build a stronger foundation and navigate differences with more ease. If you want to get a feel for how premarital counseling works, book a free 15-minute consultation.
People seek premarital counseling because they want to start marriage with clarity, confidence, and connection. While love is essential, it’s not enough on its own to handle the stress, decisions, and transitions that marriage brings, especially for high-achieving couples with big goals and full lives.
Premarital counseling gives couples a space to:
It’s not just about avoiding divorce, it’s about creating a thriving relationship that lasts. Whether you’re already engaged or just seriously dating, premarital counseling helps you become better partners before the pressure is on.
My approach is collaborative, actionable, and grounded in 20+ years of experience helping high-achieving couples reconnect without blame or overwhelm. We’ll set clear goals together, use proven strategies, and create a space that actually feels safe and productive. If you want to learn more about my style, start with a free 15-minute consultation to get a feel for the process.
Studies show that 30–40% of couples participate in premarital counseling before getting married. Research also shows that couples who engage in premarital therapy experience up to a 30% increase in marital satisfaction and are more likely to stay together long-term. It’s one of the most effective investments you can make in your future as a team.
Look for a counselor who makes you BOTH feel safe, supported, and understood. It’s important to choose someone who is licensed, experienced in couples work, and trained in evidence-based approaches like the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy, or Attachment Theory.
When choosing a premarital counselor, consider the following tips:
Feel free to schedule a free 15-minute phone conversation to see if I am a fit to help you reach your relationship goals.
Before making a major commitment like marriage or moving in together, it’s smart to have open, intentional conversations. The right questions help you understand each other’s values, expectations, and day-to-day habits, so you can prevent future misunderstandings and start your next chapter as a stronger team. Here are some key areas to explore:
Communication & Conflict
Finances
Daily Life & Routines
Future Plans & Life Goals
Intimacy & Connection
Living Together
Premarital counseling can help guide the process with expert support, research-backed tools, and a safe space to grow as a couple. If you want to learn more about my approach, start with a free 15-minute consultation to get a feel for the process.
Getting started with premarital counseling is easier than you might think, and it’s one of the best things you can do for your future together. Here’s how to take the first step:
Find a therapist who specializes in couples: Look for someone with experience supporting engaged or seriously committed couples. Ideally, they should understand relationship dynamics, communication patterns, and be familiar with neurodivergent needs if that applies to you.
Whether you’re planning a wedding or just want to make sure you’re on the same page before taking the next step, premarital counseling can help you build a strong, secure foundation. Want to learn more? Book your free consult here.
The duration of premarital counseling can vary based on the counselor’s approach and the couple’s needs. Premarital counseling typically consist of anywhere from 6 to 12 sessions, each lasting about 50 minutes. Some programs may be shorter if the couple is addressing specific issues or longer if a more comprehensive approach is desired. It’s best to discuss a proposed timeline with your counselor at the start of the sessions.
My approach is designed to be efficient and actionable. You’ll leave every session with real insights and tools you can apply immediately.
Costs for premarital counseling vary widely depending on location, the counselor’s qualifications, and whether sessions are provided in a private practice or through community or church programs. On average, you might expect to pay anywhere from $75 to $200 per session. Some community centers or religious organizations may offer counseling at reduced rates or even free of charge. It’s a good idea to inquire about fees and any available sliding scale options before beginning sessions.
Not necessarily. While premarital counseling is commonly associated with engaged couples, many counselors welcome any couple considering marriage or seeking to strengthen their relationship. Whether you’re engaged, planning a future wedding, or simply want to ensure you’re ready for marriage, premarital counseling can offer valuable insights and preparation.
The earlier you start, the easier it is to shift patterns and create real connection for a lasting relationship. Book a free 15-minute consultation to get clarity and support tailored to your relationship goals.
The goal is to create shared language, deeper understanding, and practical skills to help you feel more connected and aligned before marriage. Premarital counseling typically covers a broad range of topics, including:
These discussions are designed to help couples understand each other better and prepare for the various challenges of married life. Schedule a free 15-minute phone conversation to see if I am a fit to help you reach your relationship goals.
Yes, premarital counseling is generally confidential, and what you share won’t be disclosed without your written consent. There are a few legal exceptions to confidentiality, such as if there’s a risk of serious harm to you or others which will be addressed fully in the informed consent. Professional counselors adhere to strict ethical guidelines and privacy laws to ensure that the information shared in sessions remains private.
If you’re using insurance, it’s important to know that most insurance companies require a mental health diagnosis for reimbursement. That diagnosis becomes part of your medical record, which some couples prefer to avoid. Because of this, many couples choose to pay privately to maintain more privacy and avoid labeling their relationship or one partner with a clinical diagnosis.
It’s important to discuss confidentiality policies with your counselor at the outset so that both partners understand the boundaries and expectations. If you’re unsure what’s right for you, I’m happy to talk through the options on a free consultation call.
Premarital counseling and couples counseling both aim to strengthen relationships, but they serve different purposes. Premarital counseling is proactive, helping couples prepare for long-term commitment, like marriage or moving in – by addressing topics such as communication, finances, future goals, and conflict styles before problems arise. Couples counseling, on the other hand, is typically sought when partners are experiencing challenges like recurring arguments, emotional disconnection, or betrayal. It focuses on repairing trust, improving communication, and rebuilding connection. In short, premarital counseling helps you prepare; couples counseling helps you repair.
Not sure which one is right for you? Start with a free 15-minute consultation to get clarity and support tailored to your relationship goals.
Research also shows that couples who engage in premarital therapy experience up to a 30% increase in marital satisfaction and are more likely to stay together long-term. It’s one of the most effective investments you can make in your future as a team.
Success in premarital counseling is often measured by improved communication, deeper understanding of one another, and the development of effective conflict-resolution skills. While studies suggest that couples who participate in premarital counseling tend to report higher satisfaction and lower rates of marital distress, success depends on factors like the quality of the counseling, the commitment of both partners, and the specific challenges each couple faces. In short, while it’s not a guaranteed formula, many couples find it a valuable investment in their relationship.
See what’s possible with couples therapy, and read about the couples’ success stories here.
Research indicates that premarital counseling can lead to improved communication and problem-solving skills, which in turn may reduce the likelihood of divorce. While it isn’t a foolproof safeguard against marital challenges, many couples report that the insights and skills gained during counseling help them navigate conflicts more effectively, contributing to a more resilient relationship over time.
Read about the couples’ success stories here, and see what’s possible with couples therapy.
Absolutely. You don’t have to be engaged or even sure about the future to benefit from premarital counseling. In fact, it can be incredibly helpful to explore your communication styles, values, goals, and any recurring tensions before making big decisions. Premarital counseling is really relationship skill-building for any serious couple who wants to grow together. It’s a proactive space to strengthen your connection, clarify compatibility, and make intentional choices about your future. I can help guide an empowering process to evaluate your strengths and challenges as a couple and come up with the best plan of action to support your goals.
You can book a quick consultation here, and take the 1st step toward a deeper understanding & an action plan.
If you’re planning a future together, premarital counseling is one of the smartest investments you can make. It’s designed to help you build a strong foundation before marriage. Research also shows that couples who engage in premarital therapy experience up to a 30% increase in marital satisfaction and are more likely to stay together long-term. It’s one of the most effective investments you can make in your future as a team.
Whether you’re navigating differing communication styles, blending families, or just want tools for managing stress, conflict, or expectations, this process gives you the clarity and skills you’ll need long-term. You’ll get structured support, practical skills, and evidence-based tools to help you grow closer now and stay connected through life’s inevitable ups and downs. Couples’ success stories, reviews and results can be found here.
It’s completely normal to have doubts or questions before making a big commitment like marriage. In fact, asking those tough questions is a sign of emotional maturity, not a red flag. If you’re not sure whether you should get married, premarital counseling can offer a safe, structured space to explore your concerns without judgment. You’ll get help clarifying your values, relationship goals, communication patterns, and long-term compatibility. It’s not about convincing you one way or another – it’s about helping you make a clear, confident, and informed decision, whatever direction you choose.
If you’re both even a little bit open to exploring what’s possible, that’s enough to begin. You don’t have to know the outcome, just whether it’s worth one real, honest conversation. I offer a free 15-minute consultation if you want to feel it out together.
Couples therapy before marriage is one of the healthiest and most proactive steps you can take. It’s not a sign that something is wrong; it’s a sign that you care deeply about your relationship and want to build a strong foundation for the future.
Premarital therapy helps you explore your communication patterns, align on values, and navigate tough topics like finances, family, and future goals before they become conflicts. It gives you the skills to manage stress and deepen your emotional connection, so you walk into marriage as a true team.
Think of it as relationship training, not a red flag. Most couples wait until they’re in crisis. You’re choosing to grow together ahead of time, and that’s something to be proud of. To see what’s possible with couples therapy, check out the couples’ success stories here.
Yes, studies show that premarital counseling can reduce the risk of divorce by up to 30%. It’s one of the most effective ways to set your relationship up for long-term success. When you take time to learn how to communicate clearly, manage conflict constructively, and align on values before big transitions like marriage or moving in together, you’re far more likely to thrive as a team.
Think of it as preventative care for your relationship because the best time to strengthen your foundation is before the cracks appear. See what’s possible with couples therapy, and read about the couples’ success stories here.
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